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The decision to divorce

Why would a person stay in a marriage that leaves them unhappy and unfulfilled?

If your unhappy and unfulfilled in your marriage? Should you stay in a marriage and be miserable or divorce?  According to a recent article in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology[1], the answer to the question: Why a person would stay in a marriage that leaves them unhappy and unfulfilled? is two fold: The[…]

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Creating an Effective Divorce Attorney-Client Relationship: Part II

In the first part of this three-section discussion of an effective divorce attorney-client relationship, meaningful communication was discussed. In this second installment, the concept of professionalism, as it relates to both attorney and client, is explored. Professional responsibility is a concept attorneys study as students. As an overall concept, professionalism is something we consider when[…]

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Creating an Effective Attorney-Client Relationship: Part I

It may come as no surprise that emotions may run high in divorce and family law cases. While some matters are more amicable than others, others are extremely contentious, emotional, and simply draining. As an individual in the throes of such a case, it is often easy to overlook the fact that you and your[…]

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Gun violence – “Firearm Relinquishment Law And Implementation Could Actually Save Lives”

Note: This article on gun violence was co-authored by Kristina Bilowus of Findling Law, PLC.  Kristina’s article was accepted for publication in the April 2018 State Bar of Michigan Family Bar Journal, an academic journal for divorce and family law practitioners in the State of Michigan. Firearm Relinquishment Law And Implementation Could Actually Save Lives[…]

Forensic Accountant

Sometimes you need a Forensic Accountant. Sometimes, you don’t.

The divorce process can run the gamut from conflict-filled and full of negative emotion to straightforward and amicable. Yours will be somewhere in between the two. The goal of the divorce is to dissolve the marriage, and that includes divvying up all the assets. Sometimes you need a forensic accountant to move the process along.[…]

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Someone to Lean On during a Divorce

Need someone to lean on during divorce? It may come as no surprise that a divorce may bring difficult times. The parties involved, the family, and even close friends may feel the impact of the process. You likely need someone to lean on. Emotions can range from relief, to despair, to anger, to hurt, to[…]

The divorce process – the basics and the nitty gritty details

The formal Michigan divorce process – Divorce Steps:  In Michigan, a divorce follows a formal process.  It is important to note that a case can settle at any time during the divorce process. The statutory waiting period for a divorce with  and our Michigan divorce attorneys understand the steps and can help you navigate the[…]

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A letter to the Newly Minted Attorney – Kristina Bilowus

The Ghost of a Lawyer Future – A letter to the Newly Minted Attorney Kristina Bilowus, is an associate attorney at Findling Law and adjunct professor at Western Michigan University Cooley Law School. Kristina had the honor of being published in the November 2017 Michigan Bar Journal, a publication by the State Bar of Michigan.[…]

Credibility

A divorce case of credibility.

On July 20, 2017, in the case of Guiles v. Guiles, the Michigan Court of Appeals issued an opinion affirming a trial court ruling awarding the wife $3,000.00 in spousal support for 10 years.  The Guiles case was a case of credibility.  The trial court determined that the wife was more believable than the husband[…]

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The Path Toward Your New Happiness: Resolutions for the Newly-Divorced

For the newly-divorced, the goals might be less about decluttering, a regular workout schedule, or eating clean. A divorce offers the chance to forge a path toward your new happiness.    Healthy Boundaries (It’s Not About Salad) During the course of your marriage, you and your spouse had a set of boundaries, often unspoken, about[…]

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Counselors, Social Workers, and Psychologists: Which is right for your child?

Divorce can be a difficult experience, especially for kids. This can be a time when your child is truly struggling – with academics, personal relationships, or managing emotions and behaviors. A little extra help in dealing with this new situation can make all the difference. But, who do you turn to? Counselors, social workers, psychologists[…]

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Managing Divorce with a Special Needs Child

If you are a parent of a special needs child, you already know how much more challenging your days are providing care, education, treatments, and socialization for your child. Divorce is often an emotionally charged event for a couple with no children, quite a bit more so for a couple with children, and exceptionally challenging[…]

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40 Conversation Starters to Get Your Kids Talking to You Again

Divorce is, hands down, one of the most challenging things life will throw at you and at your kids. Many parents find that their kids retreat within themselves during this tumultuous time and communication between parents and kids can be hard. Arm yourself with a list of conversation starters to get your kids talking, and[…]

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Common Red Flags That Can Signal a Marriage Breakdown

People often say that they should have seen the signs of a deteriorating marriage sooner. It’s hard to notice subtle changes in everyday behavior, though, but you might notice persistent behaviors that just don’t quite add up. We combed many sources and found several recurring themes on this topic. Here are a few common red[…]

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10 Tips for Staying Productive when your Marriage is Ending.

Moving forward with your life is so hard when your marriage is ending. It can be really hard to stay focused and get anything done at home, work, or school. There are some little things that you can do to regain some of that focus and stay productive when you just want to curl up[…]

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Divorce Selfies: The Closure on Divorce

Chances are, you’ve got a smartphone and that you’ve taken some photos with it. You might even have taken a selfie or two, at least to send to your mother or to create a profile picture for your social media accounts. You may even have taken some selfies along the course of your divorce, to[…]

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How to Collaborate with Teachers When You are Divorcing

How to Collaborate with Teachers When You are Divorcing So much has gone on in your life since your divorce process began, and there just isn’t a single corner of it that hasn’t been turned upside down. For your child, multiply this by a hundred. You have always been there for your child where school[…]

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How to Collaborate with Teachers When You are Divorcing

So much has gone on in your life since your divorce process began, and there just isn’t a single corner of it that hasn’t been turned upside down. For your child, multiply this by a hundred. You have always been there for your child where school is concerned, and you will be now as well.[…]

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Michigan parenting time and the child’s birthday

Michigan parenting time and the child’s birthday Parenting time in Michigan time governs the times and frequency parents spend with their children.  In a perfect world, parents get along and a parenting time order could read something like:  “The parents are awarded liberal and frequent parenting time”.  Since we do not live in a perfect[…]

The Selfless Divorce

The Selfless Divorce.  By:  Daniel Findling Divorce is sometimes described as a selfish act, especially when children are involved.  How many times have you heard or been a participant in a conversation like this: “Did you hear  ______ is getting a divorce . . . I feel so bad for the children . . .[…]

Michigan Custody and Support in Divorce Cases

Michigan legal custody – What to do when you cannot agree?

Michigan legal custody – What to do when you cannot agree?  By:  Daniel Findling Most divorce cases end with both parents being awarded joint legal custody.  “Joint legal custody” means both parents are entitled to equal access and input to the educational, medical, religious needs of the child.  With joint legal custody parents must jointly[…]

Security for support

Support security – Securing the future payment of child support and alimony

Support security – Securing the future payment of support:  By Daniel Findling –  Divorce always involves change and an important change in almost every Michigan divorce or legal separation in Michigan is financial. For many, child support payments and alimony payments (spousal support) are an important financial component in moving forward after a divorce or[…]

Tax exemptions, tax deductions and Michigan divorce

Tax exemptions, tax deductions and Michigan divorce:  The most comprehensive publication on tax considerations applicable to Michigan divorced or separated individuals is published by the Department of the Treasury – Internal Revenue Service Publication 504 for use in preparing tax returns.  A link to the publication can be found at:  http://www.irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/p504.pdf This IRS publication addresses[…]

Conscious uncoupling: “spirit”, “soul” and divorce

Conscious uncoupling:  “spirit”, “soul” and divorce:  According to People magazine, Gwyneth Paltrow’s mentor, Dr. Habib Sadeghi introduced her to the notion of conscious uncoupling which apparently introduces the term “spirit” or “soul” into a divorce and her recent announcement of conscious uncoupling with her husband of 10 years, Chris Martin, has made headlines, both praising[…]

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Taxes and divorce or separation

Taxes and divorce or separation:  The tax rules that apply to divorce and separated individuals can be complex.  In fact, the Internal Revenue Service has a 29 page publication on the subject.  The publication for use in preparing your 2013 income tax returns can be found here:  http://www.irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/p504.pdf. Most Michigan divorce lawyers get nervous when[…]