Conscious uncoupling: “spirit”, “soul” and divorce

Conscious uncoupling:  “spirit”, “soul” and divorce:  According to People magazine, Gwyneth Paltrow’s mentor, Dr. Habib Sadeghi introduced her to the notion of conscious uncoupling which apparently introduces the term “spirit” or “soul” into a divorce and her recent announcement of conscious uncoupling with her husband of 10 years, Chris Martin, has made headlines, both praising and mocking her label of an apparent civil divorce.


As a Michigan divorce lawyer in practice for almost 20 years who specializes in contested divorces, surprisingly, I like the introduction of the terms “spirit” and “soul” in the divorce narrative.

I have witnessed clients struggle to stay in a relationship too long, fight too hard, become too angry, are so afraid of change, or too overcome with emotion that their spirit is lost and their soul appears empty.

The decision to divorce is rarely easy, often complicated and always emotional.  Notwithstanding, it can also be better than the present situation.

Take for example two conflicting theories involving irreconcilable marriages with children.

The first theory suggests that you should stay married until the children are older, saving them the undeniable stress associated with a divorce.

The second theory suggests that divorce is a healthier alternative than staying in a bad relationship because children learn that it is ok to be unhappy, and will subconsciously mirror their parents’ behavior when they get older.

Which theory is right?  What does your spirit and soul tell you?

When contemplating divorce, it is important to both listen to your spirit and soul, and talk to the right professionals, including a qualified divorce attorney.  A clear mind may lead you to a conscious uncoupling or reconciliation.  In either case, I hope, a happy and healthy tomorrow.

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