How to Choose an Attorney

Divorce is stressful for most, for some it is a relief. A person will usually experience some form of denial, shock and confusion before being able to let go of the relationship. Unfortunately, in addition to navigating the emotional component of a divorce, you must also choose an attorney.

Choosing a competent family law attorney will allow you to focus your energy on your life, managing the emotional component of the divorce. The attorney should focus his/her energy on the legal component of your divorce, specifically, the division of property, money, debt and the award of spousal support. If children are involved, the attorney will also address issues relating to child custody and support.

Your attorney should be competent, compassionate and honest. A competent family law attorney knows the law. A compassionate family law attorney will ask the client what he/she wants. An honest family law attorney will tell the client if his/her goals are achievable.

The difference between a good and a great divorce attorney is in the details. For example:

Recommendations for Consideration When Choosing an Attorney

I recommend considering the following when choosing a divorce attorney:

• Initial consultations should be free and specific. A thorough review of your issues is the only way to adequately quote a fee.
• Avoid flat fee divorces. Attorneys who quote a flat fee often fail to adequately represent the client if the case becomes difficult.
• A divorce attorney should be able to estimate the cost to complete the divorce and provide monthly updates of costs.
• “Men’s rights” or “Women’s rights” marketing campaigns are just that – marketing campaigns and those firms have both competent and incompetent attorneys. A competent divorce lawyer understands the law as it applies to both men and women.
• Communication is important. Phone calls should be promptly returned and the client should be fully informed of his/her case at all times. Your attorney should have more than one avenue of communication such as telephone, fax, email, meetings, etc.
• Divorce is a highly specialized field. Be cautious with the attorney whose practice includes multiple areas. Many attorneys practice divorce law as a means of supplementing their income. You need an attorney who knows divorce law so well that he/she does not waste energy or time learning the law which may be costly and cause delays.
• A divorce attorney should attend at least one (if not more) continuing legal education seminar on family law per year. It is also great if your attorney is asked to lecture at seminars to other lawyers on the issues of family law. (hint, hint . . .)